I FOUND THE ANSWER!!!
Herbal Essences Spray Gel!!! (Cue the angels singing--"Hallelujah!!!!")
You can find this spray hair gel at big boxes like Target, Walgreens, etc.
This spray gel has become a MUST in our house. My daughter's hair looks so much better with it. I gather her hair in a pony tail or pig tails and spray and comb into place. Put the covered hair band in her hair and she comes home looking almost the same as how I sent her. It is great! If you or your child has fine hair that doesn't work with regular gels, Herbal Essences Spray Gel ROCKS!